The answer is...
I worship in this church most weeks, if not at a formal Eucharist, then in some quiet and still corner when few or none but Spirit and me are present. I don't major on God talk, and when I do talk about God, I tend to repeat myself a lot because there are only a few things about God I think I know for sure.
In my experience, though, when I get tired of trying to talk to God, and listen for a change, She always answers my questions with a question. The question ultimately takes the form of an invitation. The way I know it is really an invitation from God is that there is only one right answer, which is "Yes." To reject divine hospitality is to despise our own becoming.